When is the best time to begin your Journey? Like so many other things in life, the best way to know is to look back. However if we always waited to see, nothing would get done. We do our best to prepare and again, when is our preparation complete? The same answer as above. Sometimes the prudent thing is to begin and make adjustments along the way.
Last February, when I had my “Independence Day”, I wasn’t planning to start a business nor dedicate my life to Empowering others and myself. Looking back, the only thing that I knew was that I felt “FREEDOM”! Nothing changed for me professionally at that time. In fact, I was contemplating relocation to another state just for a change of pace. In fact, I had done some preparation to get ready for that move. However, after I started my business, there was no need to move or to change my environment.
The same thing has happened with my plan for Empowering. There have been many changes in the way I approach Empowerment. Many of those changes have been contributed by my therapist. Please note, I used the word contributed. What is important for me is that I take that information, process it and decide for myself the changes. It may be hard for most to believe but that is a big step for me.
Things would always be much easier if everything were the same. I can’t stress enough that Empowerment can come to me in very different ways from how it comes to you. So when I say I’m not big on faith, that may not be the same for you. I’ll explain my reason in another post but I begin with this so I don’t offend anyone who has made faith a large part of their lives (and Empowerment)
That said, sometimes faith may be all we have. The entire day can pass and it may seem that you’ve accomplished nothing. In fact, many of the accomplishments you had planned went wrong or in some small way, you may have been sabotaged. This is when faith can be important.
When something bad happens, it doesn’t matter “why” it did or even if it happened for your own good or benefit. The fact of the matter is it happened! The important thing is how you are dealing with it and continuing to do so. It is in these times though that your faith can help you through. I believe very strongly in my growth and transformation which has occurred over the last year and a half. Many times, belief in myself has also helped me overcome my shame-based thinking. I oftentimes say that what I learned is so clear that no one – and I mean NO ONE – can take that away from me.
Everyone has heard Einstein’s familiar equation, E=mc2. (energy equals the mass times the speed of light squared). I am putting that equation in a little bit different light today. EM = C 2. EM is the beginning of Empowerment and that equals C squared. C in this case is not the speed of light, it is the “Center” meaning you. Empowerment starts with you and when you are ready to accept it, you will see its power squared. When a number is squared, it is most oftentimes more than doubled.
The important thing is to know that “C” comes first. If you are not ready for empowerment, it will not come. You will not be seeking it if you are not ready or you do not want it. As important as it is to me to be empowering, I cannot force anyone to receive it. The best I can do is live by example and hope that it is infectious enough (in a good way) that it will help someone want to become ready.
When you become empowered and you see what it has done for you, the excitement and energy makes you want to share it with everyone. It’s a natural state. Finally, I always remember that Empowerment is a two-way street. Empowering someone else means empowering myself as well.
To start with, Empowerment can be different for each one of us. You may get tired of me hearing it but if it were the same for all of us, wouldn’t it make sense that someone would have written a book by now and anybody who wanted to be empowered could just read that book and follow each step exactly? My method of empowering and being empowered will not be the same as anyone else’s. It may have some similarities and also vast differences. Please keep that in mind when I tell you about how my reflection works. It must be discovered or learned, and not mimicked or taught.
Being a writer, sometimes reflection comes when I write; either in my personal journals or even in my blogs. Sometimes it occurs when I am talking with someone. When I listen to what I say, that will bring clarity. Other times, when I am speaking to someone, what THEY say back can have a positive impact. While I am swimming or exercising, I will review events in my life and “reflect” on what they meant or possibly how I may act differently next time. Even when I went to Mt. Charleston, I sat on a rock and just looked back at my life on how my shame filter controlled my thinking. Even after I wrote the poem, I went on a hike for another couple of hours. During which time, there was more reflection.
As a suggestion, try “looking” at your life as though you were observing someone else’s life and try to be non-judgmental about yourself. For me, this type of thinking has been instrumental in helping me reflect on my life and “see” who I am which helps me make better choices for a more fulfilled life.